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The Best Wedding Music gets FAQ (Frequently asked questions) about wedding music, wedding guests, wedding DJs and more.

TBWM has the goal of helping to ease the mind of brides and grooms planning their weddings. After all, it’s way too much pressure for one day of your life as it is, right??

Below are answers to the most frequently asked questions on TBWM. If you don’t see a question you have on this page, please contact us and let us know. Your question and our answer will not only help you but future brides and grooms as well.

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FAQ - Frequently Asked Questions and Concerns from brides and grooms to be

Hi Jeannie, thanks so much for your question. It’s an important one, for sure.

If you are referring to the plan for music on your wedding day, here are a few options.

First, if you have a Professional Wedding Coordinator/Planner, she/he will know exactly what to do. Most coordinators will have a music form or they will ask you the right questions in order to make sure you and your guests hear what they want. The Wedding Coordinator/Planner will then get in touch with those responsible for playing the music on your wedding day.

Secondly, if you are having a Professional Wedding DJ and/or a Professional Band/Musician play the music on your wedding day, you can speak to each of them (if it’s more than the DJ) about their specific responsibilities.

Make sure that you not only give directions. Listen to those who are professional – they have done dozens, hundreds and sometimes thousands of weddings. They know what works and doesn’t work. Hear their advice (if they have any) and find the right plan for YOUR wedding day.

We hope that this has helped lower some of your stress.

After all, you need to enjoy your own special day!


Hi Amber, the answer to this will (hopefully!) help a lot of stressed brides and grooms dealing with the same thing you are.

We don’t know everyone’s communication style, so the way you handle this is up to you, of course.

We suggest that you politely tell these relatives that you are overwhelmed with all of the planning and decisions you have to make. You tell them that you appreciate their help, but you need them to put it in writing.

Have them write down what advice they have (usually from their own wedding experiences) and suggest they list up to five song suggestions of songs or artists they would enjoy hearing or dancing to.

Now, look at them with your spouse-to-be, write down your thoughts – or scratch out what you two don’t agree with – and turn it over to your Professional Wedding DJ.

They will have the best advice on your family’s suggestions and how to incorporate them into your wedding music plan.

Hope that helps make things a little smoother and less stressful for you!

Thanks for your question, Mia. The overall idea of wanting to incorporate your own style into your wedding without anyone getting upset is quite a common one, unfortunately.

Our immediate response to any bride worried about upsetting someone by making their own choices about their own wedding is…it is YOUR wedding. You have plenty of guidelines to tell you what is “typically” done at a wedding. We suggest you read all the crap about what is commonly done and keep only things that make you happy…or that you can tolerate.

More and more brides are choosing to drop old traditions that simply don’t fit anymore in today’s society.

In fact, many, many weddings these days no longer have the garter and bouquet toss. Even more weddings have dropped the idea of having a giant wedding cake, opting to have the couple cut a small cake and serve cupcakes and/or have a candy “bar” table.

The bottom line (you’ll hear us say this a lot) is that it is a lot of pressure for ONE day of your life. You should PLAN on enjoying it with your newlywed spouse. Make sure you can look back and smile about your wedding day.

For things specifically about your Emo/Goth style, check out our article “The Best Emo Wedding Theme For Your Special Day.”

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